HONOURING YOUR TRUE SELF
My first book, Honouring Your True Self is an approach to honouring who you are so that you can belong in relationships that matter. It was born out of my desire to uncover the behaviours that support a true emotional connection and bring into sharp focus the self-limiting behavioural patterns that prevent relationships from developing and growing.
As part of this discovery, I devised a Self Centred Approach, which is based on self-regard, compassion and value. It includes tools that can be set into motion as you embark on the path to building relationships where meaning, trust and belonging lie at the very core. As part of this process, I provide insights into the emotional and psychological shifts that occur in romantic relationships and support you in creating meaningful connections where you can remain steady and grounded and at the same time allow intimacy to develop and grow.
When we open to our true humility, we allow ourselves to be seen. From this place, we can truly see others.
sets out the transformation that takes place when we shift our gaze inwards and begin to acknowledge and regard ourselves. It brings into clear focus the script we live out of, which stems from a very young place and which we continue to engage in even when we compromise ourselves in doing so.
We acknowledge the journey we have had to take from childhood to adulthood in order to belong. As part of our survival strategy, we had to disconnect from very integral parts of ourselves. Here we take the initial steps to clearing the pathway so we can open to recognising, allowing and reconnecting with these parts once again.
we open up a space to explore our experience of relationships. How we process our thoughts and feelings has direct consequences on how we perceive others. By bringing into consciousness the neural pathways that were formed in our childhood, and which became our default way of being in our world, we can change our programming and come into relationship with our vulnerability, the cornerstone of our emotional presence.
we explore romantic love and the cultural messages we received as young children when the seeds of romance were first sewn. We take into account a larger picture of ourselves, including our most meaningful parts so that they can emerge and become known. Through a compassionate and understanding lens, we can allow for this unfolding and connecting. By making conscious our automatic and protective behavioural patterns, we can begin to create a new script that meets our needs as adults who relate in a meaningful and conscious way.
we are brought us on a pathway to love. This is a pathway to maturity, to a more mature view of our relationship with ourselves and then the relationship with others. This section outlines how we often react to rejection by blaming and questioning ourselves or the other. Here we explore how we can process our emotions and the significant growth that comes from making them conscious.
introduces the theme of intimacy in our relationships, that is, where all our parts can be included and are made welcome. This requires a level of honesty, understanding, compassion and acceptance. In order to open our hearts to love, we cannot be selective about which parts we will include and which parts we do not. The section supports the compassionate voice within us by exploring the challenges that we sometimes face in the intimate sphere of our relationships and will provide tools to help you to navigate your way through this terrain.